When I first started blogging, I thought I would try to do a weekly post called Feminist Friday where we round up all the good things & weird things happening in the feminist wilderness and just, I don't know, acknowledge them. Like hanging them on a clothes line and seeing it as a linear progression that will one day be part of the whole shift.
And let's just say, I got side tracked and never really did that column. But today is Friday. It is Black Friday. It is the Black Friday after the election where we elected an internet troll as President. Not to mention a troll with 120 some odd charges against him, some of which are sexual assault charges. A troll who said such horrific things that I spend most of my last two therapy sessions dealing with the trigger fest this election has been. A troll who lost the popular vote by two million votes to Hillary Clinton who would have been our first mother/grandmother to hold the highest office.
Now, I -- I know -- I know we have still not shattered that highest and hardest glass ceiling, but some day someone will and hopefully sooner than we might think right now. And to all the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams.
The most bizarre part of the election is the blind siding I felt. How oblivious I was to the rampant racism and sexism and the MACHINE OF FAKE NEWS THAT IS FUELING IT.
So right now, I feel motivated to look at it. To call it out and say this is what people are seeing, how can I be an agent of change today?
SO THIS WEEK IN FEMINISM:
1. FEMINISM HAS MADE WOMEN WEAKER THAN EVER
In TownHall, another right wing click bait tank, Dennis Prager argues that these days, Feminist identified women are weaker than ever because they can't take misogyny like they used to. Why his grandmother never even heard of the F word and she was stronger than any of us. He says that the truly strong woman is the one who can stand up in her college class and say that even though she wants a career, she is hoping for a good man to marry. He says that all the comments that Donald Trump made aren't misogynistic but just juvenile. Basically it comes down to:
Modern feminists are afraid of life. They are afraid of differences of opinion. And they're especially afraid of men.
Because women these days are concerned with safe spaces and trigger warnings, Prager claims that we are all scared of life and of men. I'm not sure if that has anything to do with the fact that 1 in 6 women are sexually assaulted in their life time. Or that 63% of sexual assault cases go unreported in their life time so most likely that number is much higher in reality. I don't know a woman who hasn't had some experience of sexual violence or harassment. And yet, somehow, we keep going on talking to men, sometimes being married to them, being in the world with them and generally living our lives.
2. THE FIRST MUSLIM WOMAN MP IN AUSTRALIA DELIVERS POWERFUL SPEECH
Anne Aly, a member of parliament in Australia ( a congresswoman), talked about her experiences with sexism and misogyny while holding public office. (She must be a really weak woman for holding a national office, dealing with all that shit, and continuing to serve her constituents)
You can view the whole speech here.
My favorite part was:
We will never enjoy true gender equality until the most marginalized among us can enjoy that success.. We are not separate voices that whisper in the background we are and should be front and center...We need to find capable intelligent women of colour to go out and apply themselves in all areas.
3. Queer Feminist Chicanx Punk Band, FEA, has a new record on Joan Jett's Label
Have you heard about FEA yet? I just did and I am so excited. Fea stands for Fuck Em All and is also the Spanish word for ugly girl. They are from San Antonio and they make me want to jump up and down and whip my hair back and forth.
It is now more important [than] ever that as a queer, feminist, Chicana punk band we continue to make the music we do [and fight] the good fight of equality for all. Now is the time to love, stay strong, and support each other.”
4. WHITE FEMINISM KEEPS FUCKING UP
What started at as the Million Women March is now being called the Women's March on Washington after some women of color called them out for co-opting a name that was used by black women in the eighties. I often feel about white feminists the way I feel about Oklahoma: ashamed but I can't deny that I am from here. I have to take responsibility for the dumb shit we do.
I think the Women's March is a fantastic idea and if I can get it together to go, I want to go, mostly to just see if that many uteruses on the mall can change the menstrual cycle of the planet. one of the founders of the event, issued a statement saying how all of that went down but the fact is, we just have to do better. We need intersectional feminism. None of us can get anywhere if we don't lift up all of us.
5. FEMINISM IS MORE THAN A T-SHIRT
I enjoyed this article in The Week that analyzed the rise of the style of feminism and how it may or may not be helping the cause. I've felt conflicted with the whole Pantsuit Nation and the shirts that say things like Nasty Woman or Pussy Grabs Back. Mostly because I hate amplifying the words of an internet troll and because this election has already ruined some of my favorite dirty words.
When you see shirts on the other side like "Trump that bitch" or read posts like the one above, it is easy to get filled with rage. I want to delete every person in my life who doesn't get that feminism is for everybody. But the harsh reality is that a movement or ISM like this one, is only made of it's people. It is made of relationships. Trump supporters deserve reproductive justice too. No one deserves what's coming. I am really seeking ways to choose empathy and compassion over rage and avoidance. It's an everyday struggle.
I used to think this woman I went to work with was a terrible example of Christianity. She was always trying to get people to come to church with her but I would always think, you are so mean, why would I want to come to church with you. You aren't a very good ambassador for Jesus. Which makes me wonder if I am a good witness for the gospel of feminism.
Would people want to come to church with me if the church was called Intersectional Feminism and I was the pastor. Who is in my congregation? Who can I love on today.
6. Self Care When The Patriarchy Is Losing It's Shit
I was really grateful for this unapologetically woo article from this yoga studio in Tacoma. Self care tips for this time of great shifting. Take care of yourselves, love. We are stronger together.