Do you remember what sex-ed was like? Was there some kind of demonstration of a condom on a banana or did they just split up the boys and girls and talk about deodorant and tampons? Did you have a painfully awkward Birds & Bees talk with your parents? (My mom said, "Don't have sex but if you do there are condoms in the drawer.")
Most people I know have some kind of hilarious/sad story about sex education. That's why my daughter, Kavi and I are on a mission to design a new kind of sex education program. There are definitely some good ones out there but there are a lot more bad ones.
In fact, on a recent trip to the library for resources, I found a current sexuality text book for ninth graders in Oklahoma. There was a whole chapter about LGBT issues (yay?) which included the sentence,
"You might be lesbian. If so, you should know lesbians have a higher risk for depression, heart disease and smoking."
WTF? For starters, are only women identified people reading this book? Ugh.
The first step of our project involves research. So to start, we have a Wordpress site where you can take a survey about your education and sex experience. This will help us gather data about where to focus our energy and what an ideal experience might be like.
We're trying out the name, FunBod (something I came up during my Core Align fellowship when I was hoping to make a Queer Period Tracker - who knows maybe I still will!) but we are open to feedback. We're hoping to create a model that celebrates the body instead of shaming it and makes facilitating a conversation around sex less awkward and more helpful.